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| What Do You See? |
Just look at the image.Rob is walking ahead of FKAtwigs in the same way he used to walk ahead of Kristen. There is a difference though.
Twigs is carefully made up and elegantly dressed.She is not wearing a designer dress. A scarf yes, but a way of dressing and combining that is uniquely her style.
She does not intend to get tweetstormed online for being a dark monkey.
She is dressed for cameras.Twigs is dressed to be seen.
Kristen never was unless it was a PR event.
What is significant to me is that Rob is walking WITH her exactly the way he walked with Kristen when the papz were around.Pissed.Walking ahead of her.Look at twigs.She is not upset particularly.
She has dressed for herself, for Rob and for Papz. Rob is dressed or rather not dressed as if he were with Kristen. He walks ahead of FKA the way he did with Kristen.
Twigs fiddles with her phone rather than hide her face,put on sunglasses,stick her finger up to ruin the price of the image. She is indifferent to them. Like Joli is. Rob is still stuck in Twilight mode. Twilight mode with Kristen.
Rob has not made the transition. And this is where I am disturbed.
In the late 1980's I went to a psychoanalytic seminar.I heard Howard Covitz speak there on the dreams of Joseph. He analyzed them.
Joseph tells his brothers he has dreamed that they all had sheaves of wheat. Their sheaves bowed down to his sheaf of wheat.
Covitz's analysis was that Joseph saw his brothers with = signs between them. That is, his brothers were not individuals, singular,unique, but perceived as "clones" of each other (my word not Covitz).
Was it any wonder they disliked Joseph and sold him into Egyptian slavery? Joseph also dressed femme in his clothes and makeup/hair. Another sign that made him different, disliked?
At that point in the talk something connected with me.
I had seen Bunuel's That Obscure Object of Desire
about 10 years before. Once with a man I had been with for 10 years or so, was not in love with, but in a sort of partnership,friend way.
In that movie Rey has two lovers who are both Spanish, dark hair, dark eyes, but definitely two actresses. Two different actresses.
I saw it again the same week with a new lover with whom I was not in love but felt serious about.
Both these men in my life thought the two women were the same woman. I even tried to correct them to no avail as they saw ONE women, not two.
I stopped arguing and thought about this. Thinking about Freud's Dora whom I always thought Freud did not understand well. Not the way Breuer understood Anna O anyway.
And listening to Covitz that day the lightbulb went on.
Neither of these men in my life that were now gone, saw me as unique.Neither of them saw any woman as unique. There was an equal sign between us all. And this is Joseph's narcissism.He didn't either.
WHAT IS LOVE?
The second way of finding a meaning in life is....by experiencing another human being in his very uniqueness - by loving him.
Love is the only way to grasp another human being to the innermost core of his personality. No one can become fully aware of the very essence of another human being unless he loves him. By his love he is enabled to see the essential traits and features in the beloved person; and even more, he sees that which is potential in him, which is not yet actualized but yet ought to be actualized. Furthermore, by his love, the loving person enables the beloved person to actualize these potentialities. By making him aware of what he can be and of what he should become, he makes these potentialities come true.
Man's Search for Meaning pp 111-112
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| We can probably safely say that Rob's audition for Edward was close to this. In choosing his costar for Remember Me he said he tried the same thing but it didn't work (laughs) Kristen chose Rob. On Oprah she said she just saw something in him. She just knew. Can we say she saw his potential, what he could become in the role of Edward? Isn't this love? Is it required to say out loud, "I love him!" Kristen gazes at us through the camera with love as someone has written about her, comparing her gaze with Lilian Gish, and other silent stars of yesterday. |
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| One of the few times Kristen has been eloquent in answering questions And didn't Rob actualize Kristen's potential for being beautiful, sexy, seductive?Didn't Kristen "shame" herself by announcing her "shame" to the world and saying "I love him" to protect him for his upcoming PR for Cosmopolis? Does Rob perceive an = sign between FKAtwigs and Kristen? That is my question. I hate that I see this but I can't unsee it. |
